Telling someone who has lost someone – that it’s for the best, or that you are better off, or – in the case of death – that they’re in a better place – causes MORE rage. It does NOT help the person who is mourning that loss. It makes them feel even more alone, isolated.
While this began as a response to a facebook post by someone who was discussing how to help someone who’s lost someone, I realized that it’s a subject too close to my own heart to merely comment on something that will soon be gone. I don’t KNOW how to comfort someone whose heart has been shattered other than reciting the same cliche’ responses other people have. NOTHING and NO ONE can make the hurt go away.
And it sucks.